My daddy was
the smartest man I ever knew and he was my hero. There wasn’t anything that he
fell short of when it came to common sense and knowing how to get by. He always
said, if ye got common sense ye can go far in life. He’d be the first to admit
he didn’t get much schoolin as he put it, in one door and out the other. But
times were different back then, young'uns had to help with the work, planting,
harvesting, etc.
What time
daddy wasn’t in the fields helping his daddy plow he was at the gristmill
helping to grind the corn people would bring for their bread. That’d be an all
day job. They’d come in home and eat supper and head towards the corn patches
and plow till pitch dark. They’d get up before the crack of dawn and head back
out to the fields. Then his dad would tell him, you get on up that hill to
school son. Daddy said, he’d stay for a little while and get something on his
mind to do and slip out the back door. That teacher would keen his legs good
the next day with that hickory limb but it didn’t do any good. He’d do the same
the next chance he got. His daddy would jump on him when he got home and
sometimes do the same as the teacher but it didn’t stop him none.
It wasn’t easy
to get a book education back then but daddy learned early on how to get through
life. He never let it stop him with anything except one thing and that was
getting his driver’s license. He never would try. He said since he couldn’t
read and write what was the use in trying. He always said, what are they gonna
do with an old man like me if they catch me, put me in the jailhouse and throw
away the key. If they did I’d have it made with three square meals a day and
there’d be less expense and worry for your mammy to have on her shoulders. Of
course mama didn’t see it that way and always said if they catch ye you’ll have
to lay in the jailhouse cause I can’t get ye out.
From the time
daddy was old enough to hold the reins he drove an old wagon helping his dad
and I guess he figured why worry about a license now. There was so many old,
gutted, out roads he traveled down in an old wagon and later on in life he
helped build them and Dams too. He worked for the WPA (Worker’s Progress
Administration) when President Roosevelt signed it into law. He always said it
was the best thing to come along. That’s why he knew every road around.
I can honestly
say he never did get caught and was blessed to never be in an accident. We told
him he had angels riding with him and God for sure.
But there was
this one time he came mighty close. He always took the backroads when he got
the chance but sometimes he had no choice but to hit the main roads.
He was taking
my sister to the doctor one day for a recheck on her knee that she’d fell and
twisted a few weeks before, when they came upon a road check. She was around
twelve or so and it scared her. She yelled, “oh no we’re in for it now daddy.”
He said, “calm down and stop ye worryin so much.” She said, they’ll put you in
the jailhouse daddy, you ain’t got no license.” He told her again to calm down
and stop frettin. Daddy slowed the old truck down and stopped, waiting for em
to get through with the car in front . The officer waved daddy on through when
it came time for him to pull up and be checked. Daddy slowly pulled on out and
they stopped the vehicle behind em. My sister said, I wonder why they didn’t
wanna check us daddy, and daddy said, “I told ye they ain’t got time to fool
with an old man like me.”
They got to
the doctor’s office and when they walked inside, daddy walked up to the window
and said, “we’re here to get this gal’s knee checked, you know the one that
tore her knee up while scufflin at school.” One of the ladies asked my sister
what her name was and she told her. Daddy found him a seat in amongst a bunch of
old fellers and started running his mouth as if he knew every one of em and
they did the same. Who knows, he probably did. He knew everybody and if they
didn’t know him they’d get to know him really fast
Daddy couldn’t
write her name down on the clipboard or his own name either for that matter but
it never stopped him from facing what life threw at him and he would walk into
the biggest crowd to come along and made himself at home. He never saw a
stranger.
I remember
when he finally gave up his driving. His reflexes weren’t as good as they once
were and it was for the best. The old truck just sit there for the longest time
and everyday he’d crank it up just to hear it run. We felt sorry for him but it
was for the best. He finally gave in and sold it. And he never mentioned driving
anymore.
He taught me a lot about common sense and how
to get through life. I’m so glad I got the privilege to attend school and learn
what I did. My daddy and mama encouraged us young'uns to get as much education as
possible. They always said, “ye never know what you might face in life and how
much ye may need it.” They were pretty stern on an education and today I know
why and appreciate em even more so. But common sense goes along ways and my
daddy was living proof of that . He lived life to the fullest every day and
walked up and down the same roads that he help build. After we lost daddy the
doctor told us that’s what kept him going was his walking. The only times I can
ever remember him being in the hospital was when he had to have a couple of
minor surgeries and being put in for his blood pressure being to high, as he
called it the swimmy heads.
That’s saying
a lot for an old man that lived to the ripe old age of ninety four. I bet he’s
talking to everyone he comes in contact with up in heaven and if there’s a
chance he can drive, he’s doing that too.
I still hear
him sometimes as he walks through my yard and those famous words, “I’m going
out to the old homeplace to check on the garden and see if that groundhog has finished
it off.” Of course, that was just an excuse to go back to the old place where
he was born and raised and where he raised his own family. He loved that old
place and he followed his memories, just like I’m doing today.
Thanks daddy for
showing me how to follow my heart and giving me so many great memories and
lessons in life. You sure did leave a lot behind for us all to enjoy and live
by.
© Susie Swanson 2016
Hi Susie, I love this post. You father sounds a lot like my mom. Mommy never had much schooling either. But she would tell all us kids, book smarts aren't any good without some damn horse sense. LOL. She could never be tricked into anything. Always cautious . She could read and write. She sure could work hard too. Blessings to you and thank you for sharing your wonderful memories with us. Love, xoxo, Susie
ReplyDeleteThe love you feel for your daddy shines through every word of this post, Susie. I was never close to my daddy and I can't imagine how special it must be. He wasn't mean to us, just wasn't affectionate. I don't remember him ever whipping me; on the other hand, I don't remember him ever telling me he loved me.
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ReplyDeleteSusie I wish I had known your daddy but after reading this I feel like I do know him. Dad and Mom had a lot of his same characteristics as they were born in 1905 and 1906 respectivly. I often skipped school to help Dad and Mom put in our crops and then take care of them till harvest time. I know it didn't help my grades a lot but I figured that getting the crops and garden planted, tended, and harvested were more important because the crops were what we ate and fed our cattle.
ReplyDeleteWonderful and sweet tribute to your Dad, Susie. Common sense does indeed go a long way. I hope you have a nice weekend!
ReplyDeleteSuch a lovely remembrance of your dad...
ReplyDeleteAnd so well written...
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I always see the love you have for your Daddy when you write about him. It blesses me! I look forward to meeting him and your mom in heaven.
ReplyDeleteSusie, this story made me remember the old truck my daddy had and how much I liked to ride in the back. He always made sure we didn't tap on the top of the truck unless there was some kind of trouble. I think a lot of the things we did as children were dangerous ~ but they make for good memories!
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